Relationships go through ups and downs. An individual’s sex drive similarly experiences all kinds of peaks, valleys and changes. Have you started to feel like your husband is not as lustful as before? Have you forgotten how his genitals look in the moonlight? Can’t remember the last time you two had dirty, noisy, wall-scratching, police-showed-up-because-the-neighbors-complained sex?

Have you put on a few pounds? Are your under-eye bags starting to look like luggage? Never mind that superficial nonsense. All you need to get your husband back in your pants is a stunning personality! If he found you attractive at some point, you just might be able to be so again, with a little time and effort. The key to being attractive and loved by another is to first love yourself and radiate the positive energy that comes with self-confidence. Here are some tips to get your horny husband away from the computer screen or local strip club and back in your bed:

1. Your passion first

The first step in cultivating your husband’s renewed sexy-tention is to follow your passions! Start engaging in activities you love. Start learning a language you’ve always loved, or take a cooking class. Whatever it is, get in touch with what makes you tick.

2. Wardrobe purge

If your goal is to have your hubby realize what a sexy woman he married, your Hanes zip-up sweatshirt just won’t cut it. Start dressing a little sexier, even when you’re at home cleaning or playing with the kids. A little cleavage never killed anyone. If you’re feeling sexy, it won’t go unnoticed.

3. All the women, independent

You can still ask your husband to join you for a fun night out or day in the park. However, if he declines, go with someone else. Don’t stay home and show him how utterly lifeless and dependent you are. Those days are over. From now on you will be enjoying your life with or without him.